D - INTERVIEW: Dr. Lexx; How to balance the ego Pt. 4

DISCUSSION WITH DR. LEXX: HOW TO BALANCE THE EGO (PT. 4)

Episode Summary

On his 16th birthday, Dr. Apples’ mother was kidnapped by fairies and replaced with a doll. Each year on his birthday, he’s presented a doll, which has his mother’s essence. He’s travelled to various planets, dimensions, and realms, questioned, tortured, and pried his way for clues. He’s on a mission to find his mother.

What happens when our ego takes the driver's seat in our lives? This episode of the Dr Apples interview series promises to uncover the hidden signs of an unbalanced ego and the common mechanisms we use to shield ourselves from accountability. Join me, Lacey, as we speak with our insightful guest about the protective barriers we build through defensiveness and excuses, and how these habits impact our relationships and stifle personal growth.
 
 We also explore actionable solutions for those recognizing these tendencies within themselves. From the transformative power of therapy to the essential role of having a trusted check-in person, we cover practical steps anyone can take towards emotional balance. Learn about the importance of vulnerable relationships that foster empathy and the benefits of journaling as a tool for self-reflection and healing. This episode is packed with wisdom and practical advice, making it an indispensable listen for anyone committed to their personal development journey.

Transcript

D - INTERVIEW: Dr. Lexx; How to balance the ego Pt. 4

Lacye: 00:04

Welcome to the Dr. Apples interview series. I'm your host Lacye. And today we delve into the captivating folklore of Dr. Apples. In this episode, we're not just recounting his story, but diving deeper into the theme of the ego. Join us as we dissect this compelling aspect of Dr. Apples journey and uncover the profound insights hidden within. This is part four. So for me, like in terms of unbalanced ego, I would think like, you know, it has to do with accountability.

And I noticed a lot of people can make excuses. I myself, I mean, I check myself a lot and I'm like, whoa, whoa, whoa. Like let's change that bad habit. I would think making excuses the go-to resolution for everything happening to you versus not accepting accountability like say your significant other dumps you and you state he'll never find another person like that or a friend dislikes you and you're like they're just jealous and or you didn't get the promotion it's like it's because she was pretty You know, there may or may not be some truth behind that, but is that a sign of an unbalanced ego or is that something else?

Dr. Lexx: 01:36

The minimizing part of looking at hard things I would say that might be some defensiveness. I don't know if that's part of an unbalanced ego. I think that's to protect the ego, right? People do that to say, like, it's not me. It's not my personhood who is wrong and who is bad, so they don't feel shame. So they throw up those defenses to try and protect their personhood, their ego, saying like, no, well, it could have been this, this and this. Now my ego isn't jeopardized. Now the person I see myself as isn't any less because I didn't achieve this thing.

Lacye: 02:17

Okay. I gotcha. I gotcha. Okay. So let's say that I'm listening and I'm like, okay, you know, uh, yes, I've identified this, this issue listening to this and I'm, I have a problem, maybe. Um, so now what, so how does one rectify this issue?

Dr. Lexx: 02:45

Oh, therapy one. Yeah. Um, excuse me, it can help. But the second thing is I really, really love for people to have that check in person, right? If you're, you're building significant, intimate, vulnerable relationships. And I say intimate, I don't just mean like intercourse in ways. I mean, being able to take emotional risks with another person and that be successful and fulfilling, being able to also be a respite for another person where it's not just about you and you're not performing. I think those are really key factors in building up empathy and closeness that help de-center ego when it's so, so present. Got it.

Lacye: 03:36

And I would think if you can't find someone to check in that, of course, therapy is definitely the go-to method.

Dr. Lexx: 03:46

Right. There are many places and ways to do therapy now as well. check in, see what it feels like. Also, if you're noticing people leaving you, leaving relationships with you, not wanting to build friendships with you, ghosting you, it might be time for a self check-in of like, what's going on? What's my piece of this? Not the whole pie, just a piece of the pie. Because eating the whole pie makes you a martyr. And that person also is very egotistical because now it's all about you and your martyrdom versus recovering from the pain and trauma, which is your job.

Lacye: 04:26

That's some nice balance there. So what are some recommendations for balancing the ego? I know on your site, lexsexdoc.com, I'll list it below under the transcripts. You mentioned under self-help tools, healing through writing. What is that specifically?

Dr. Lexx: 04:51

So that's actually a bunch of different writing prompts. I think that once we make some room for our own egos and the processes that we go through, we write them down to help get them out of our heads so we're not ruminating. It's not going back and back over and over and over again in our heads. We're putting it someplace safe. We're putting it somewhere we can come back to it. We won't necessarily forget all the pieces.

And it can really alleviate some of that angst. So journaling, if you do text to talk on your phone in a word document or a notepad, all of these ways are ways to get these thoughts out and to have them land somewhere safe. That's part of the allure of therapy. You get to share all of these things and most of the time with no judgment and with somebody else to be able to walk through with your emotionality too.

Lacye: 05:46

I love that. Thank you, Dr. Lexx. We'll continue this discussion with part five. As we wrap up today's journey with Dr. Apples, ponder the role of ego in his enchanted tale. Don't miss our next episode, where we'll dive deeper into this intriguing interview. Subscribe, share, and join us as we continue unraveling the mysteries of Dr. Apples' world. Until next time, keep exploring the depths of the unseen and join us on the hunt to find his mother.