C - INTERVIEW: Dr. Lexx; How to balance the ego Pt. 3

DISCUSSION WITH DR. LEXX: HOW TO BALANCE THE EGO (PT. 3)

Episode Summary

On his 16th birthday, Dr. Apples’ mother was kidnapped by fairies and replaced with a doll. Each year on his birthday, he’s presented a doll, which has his mother’s essence. He’s travelled to various planets, dimensions, and realms, questioned, tortured, and pried his way for clues. He’s on a mission to find his mother.

What if the unchecked ego shapes the trajectory of your life? Join us in this episode of the Dr Apples interview series where we explore this profound question with our insightful guest, Dr. Lex. We unravel the mysteries of Dr Apples' folklore, focusing on the intricate theme of the ego. Dr. Lex guides us through the telltale signs of an unbalanced ego in young adults in their late 20s and early 30s - from self-centeredness to perfectionism - and how these traits can profoundly affect personal relationships and social interactions.
 
 As we journey further, Dr. Lex illustrates how the manifestations of an unchecked ego evolve with age, leading to behaviors such as narcissism and emotional manipulation in individuals from mid-30s to late 60s and 70s. Discover how these behaviors can significantly impact one's life and relationships and what it means for a person's reflection in their later years. This episode promises deep insights and practical advice on managing the ego at different life stages, making it an essential listen for anyone looking to understand the complexities of human behavior.

Transcript

C - INTERVIEW: Dr. Lexx; How to balance the ego Pt. 3

Lacye: 00:04

Welcome to the Dr. Apples interview series. I'm your host, Lacye. And today we delve into the captivating folklore of Dr. Apples. In this episode, we're not just recounting his story, but diving deeper into the theme of the ego. Join us as we dissect this compelling aspect of Dr. Apples journey and uncover the profound insights hidden within. This is part three. So, Dr. Lexx, what would be a sign of an unbalanced ego for, I would say, someone in their late 20s or early 30s? I'm a tad bit curious about that age range.

Dr. Lexx: 00:56

So, late 20s, early 30s is usually when we're looking at people starting to build intimacy. or they go into isolation, right? This is typically a time when people start to be social at work or social at school, starting to maybe have serious dating relationships, whoever they're dating. So, a sign that the ego is unbalanced there would be a lot of I don't want to say self-centeredness, self-absorption. So, everything is about self. We've all probably met those people, right, where they only talk about themselves. Or even if you bring something up, they bring something up in relation of themselves. Not for closeness, but so the conversation can shift back to them.

So, we start to see that, oh, well, you're not taking care of me, but you're also abandoning me. And everything is so much me centered. And then on the flip side, we see perfectionism. Right. So, people who are highly critical of anybody who goes against whatever set rules that that person has decided and not just for them, but for all of society. Well, this is the way I do it. 

So, this is the way that everybody else should do it, because this is the way that's the best. That is an unchecked ego. Like, well, no, you know, you can cut paper hearts a bunch of different ways. I just choose it this way. Well, you're wrong. Like, um, I don't know if I want to be your friend anymore. I'm good. Great. Let's end this date now. But that's a sign that ego is, is much, much, much bigger and out of control than you might want to deal with.

Lacye: 02:33

Yeah. I tell people, um, I said, there's more than one way to boil an egg. And they're like, what? There you go. Once you figure that out, you'll figure out life, okay?

Dr. Lexx: 02:45

Right, right. Like, are you salting the water or not? Like, what are you doing? Do you only boil it and like let it boil and then turn the water off and just let it cook the rest of the way? Or do you like really soft-boiled eggs? There's a bunch of different ways to boil eggs. You're exactly right. Different ways to boil an egg.

Lacye: 03:00

So I'm interested in someone who is in their mid-thirties and or and or older. Are the signs different for an unbalanced ego at different ages or?

Dr. Lexx: 03:16

You're going to see as people progress, they get more savvy in their behavior. So, the consumption of ego often can look like a narcissist. OK. Right. So, somebody who is getting all of their needs met, who's using emotional, maybe even physical manipulation just for them to be pleased or because it pleases them. And they are the most important all of the time. It's not in relationship where it's give and take or there's flexible boundaries. It's all about that person feeling okay.

And I would say that's probably mid-thirties to. late 60s and 70s, around late 60s and 70s, when we start to see that unchecked ego and that unbalanced ego, people start to reflect on their lives. And as they start to reflect on their lives, they're going to realize they either generated something amazing throughout their life, or they're going to be really bitter at the fact that they resent a lot of their choices. and are pretty lonely, that they weren't productive, that they didn't do anything great. Now, a narcissist who lives that long will blame other people.

Saying, well, like, you know, having my kid prevented me from doing this or having this worker prevented me from doing this. And that's why I couldn't grow. It wasn't them. It wasn't me. It was them. That is what an age old narcissist would do as they're reviewing their lives and productivity. And so that's what you also look out for as older folks are dating and also getting together and spending time together. So is this person able to say like, yes, I own, this is my mistake and this is what I generated in my life and I'm satisfied with that.

Lacye: 05:08

Thank you, Dr. Lexx. We'll continue this discussion with part four. As we wrap up today's journey with Dr. Apples, ponder the role of ego in his enchanted tale. Don't miss our next episode, where we'll dive deeper into this intriguing interview. Subscribe, share, and join us as we continue unraveling the mysteries of Dr. Apples' world. Until next time, keep exploring the depths of the unseen and join us on the hunt to find his mother.