A - INTERVIEW: Dr. Lexx; How to balance the ego Pt. 1

DISCUSSION WITH DR. LEXX: HOW TO BALANCE THE EGO (PT. 1)

Episode Summary

On his 16th birthday, Dr. Apples’ mother was kidnapped by fairies and replaced with a doll. Each year on his birthday, he’s presented a doll, which has his mother’s essence. He’s travelled to various planets, dimensions, and realms, questioned, tortured, and pried his way for clues. He’s on a mission to find his mother.

What happens when a magical teen with the world at his fingertips faces the harsh reality of loss? Join us as Dr Lex James, a renowned sexologist and therapist, unravels the complexities of the ego through the fascinating tale of Teen Dr Apples. You'll gain a deeper understanding of how the ego—broken down into the id, ego, and superego—affects our everyday lives. Through delightful analogies involving Sesame Street characters like Cookie Monster, Dr Lex demystifies this often misunderstood concept.
 
 Dr Lex also shares her expertise on addressing taboo topics and promoting sex-positive education, emphasizing the importance of a balanced ego. As the founder of the Institute for Sexuality and Intimacy and a best-selling author, she offers practical advice on maintaining a healthy sense of self. This episode promises to enrich your perspective on the interplay between ego and personal growth while offering actionable insights for fostering inclusive environments. Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation that blends psychological depth with engaging storytelling.

Transcript

A - INTERVIEW: Dr. Lexx; How to balance the ego Pt. 1

 Lacye: 00:04

Welcome to Dr. Apple's interview series. I'm your host, Lacye. And today we delve into the captivating folklore of Dr. Apples. In this episode, we're not just recounting his story, but diving deeper into the theme of the ego. Join us as we dissect this compelling aspect of Dr. Apple's journey and uncover the profound insights hidden within. For the discussion, I have the pleasure of having Dr. Lexx to discuss her input along with methods on how to balance that ego.

This is part one. Imagine if you had magical abilities and it feels like the world is at the palm of your hands. Forget any issues or social media bills. You're about to open the secrets of life. Everything seems magical. You're smart, and you know it. You're powerful, and you know it. All is wonderful. Then, without notice, your best friend, your protector, your only friend, your mother, is kidnapped. What would you do? Could you have prevented this? Was this your fault? And now it's the moment you've been waiting for.

My guest created the Institute for Sexuality and Intimacy. She's a certified sexologist, licensed marriage and family therapist in the state of Missouri. She combines therapy and education to create a well-rounded experience and also to conquer taboo topics. Her therapy work helps people heal from relationship distance, intimacy challenges, depression, anxiety, grief, and trauma. It's her mission. to deliver sex-positive, comprehensive, gender-expansive, Adi positivity, culturally diverse, queer and trans-inclusive, medically accurate, shame-free sex education.

 Not only that, she's a best-selling author for a book I feel every parent should own. I have it. The book is titled, “These Are My Eyes, This Is My Nose, This Is My Vulva, These Are My Toes”. It's a book to help children of all genders and their caregivers to normalize body parts. I've known her for quite some time. I'm so proud of her. And let me tell you, her heart is bigger than her smile. What a pleasure to have here, Dr. Lexx James, also known as Dr. Lexx. Welcome, Dr. Lexx.

Dr. Lexx: 03:08

Hello.

Lacye: 03:09

I'm so glad that you're here. So, Dr. Lexx, here we have a rather egotistical, magical teen in episode one, Teen Dr. Apples. So, I just wanted to quickly define the ego for listener, just simply from dictionary.com. The I or self of any person. A person as thinking, feeling, and willing, and distinguishing itself from the selves of others and from objects of its thought.

A person's sense of self-esteem or self-importance. So, the ego is a wonderful attribute, but can often be overused and obviously by teen Dr. Apples. So, Dr. Lexx, could you explain to someone like myself who comprehends the definition of ego, but what does that mean or how does my ego affect my everyday life?

Dr. Lexx: 04:19

Oh, well, one great question. And then two, thanks for having me. I'm super excited in talking about ego. I'm going to explain it. the way it was explained to me many, many moons ago regarding Sesame Street characters and a little bit of Muppet Babies, okay? So, stick with me here. The ego, which people often misname and think about it as pride, isn't exactly what we're talking about, right? People are like, put your ego aside, when they really do mean put your pride aside. Ego is actually split into three forms.

So, we have the id, I-D, the ego, E-G-O, and the super ego. So, imagine ego in a cape. So your ID is like a cookie monster, right? I see cookies, cookie, cookie, cookies, nom, nom, nom, nom, nom, right? And that is exactly what the ID is. The ID is I see something, I want it, I go get it. It is pleasure centered. It is all for self. There is no giving up and sacrificing for others in the ID.

The um what you think of when you think of maybe like toddlers for instance it's all about them and they're the ones who are most important and they're the ones who matter so that's your ID it's cookie monster now your super ego is more like Bert right from the Muppet babies and Bert is like uh-uh Ernie don't do that this is not the way we do that no Bert like You don't have to control everything, but Bert really over-controls everything to try and make sure that everything goes right.

Then the ego would be Kermit the Frog. So, Kermit the Frog is the producer. He is the one backstage making sure everybody's needs are met and trying to balance a Cookie Monster and a Bert. So, it's right in the middle of saying, OK, we can have some of these cookies and we're going to make sure we brush our teeth and maybe take a walk. So, our bodies feel good, too. So, Kermit is trying to negotiate and balance that super ego, which also can be highly critical. And that id, which just gives into all desires, no matter how healthy, unhealthy or beneficial they are for yourself. So those are the three types of egos that we like to talk about.

Lacye: 06:56

Thank you, Dr. Lexx. We'll continue this discussion with part two. As we wrap up today's journey with Dr. Apples, ponder the role of ego in his enchanted tale. Don't miss our next episode, where we'll dive deeper into this intriguing interview. Subscribe, share, and join us as we continue unraveling the mysteries of Dr. Apple's world. Until next time, keep exploring the depths of the unseen and join us on the hunt to find his mother.